Comments on: Why We (and Our Characters) Fall in Love: Part 2

By: Why We (and Our Characters) Fall in Love – Part Five | Writers In The Storm Blog

Mon, 24 Jun 2013 11:01:30 +0000

[…] wraps up her series on attachment models and the science of falling in love. If you missed Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, or Part 4 where she describes the early childhood adaptations and the […]

By: Why We (and Our Characters) Fall in Love: Part Four | Writers In The Storm Blog

Mon, 20 May 2013 11:00:39 +0000

[…] attended on Attachment Styles. In case you missed any of the information, you can access Part 1, Part 2, or Part 3 by clicking on the links. Part Five (on Monday, June 24) will tie all the styles […]

By: writersinthestorm

writersinthestorm — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 15:29:07 +0000

In reply to NancyS.Goodman. Thanks, Nancy. The fourth attachment style deals with those who have suffered physical abuse from caregivers. I hope you've saved those deleted scenes, because I suspect you can use them, even if they are a little raw. Thanks again for the reblog and your comments. -Fae

By: NancyS.Goodman

NancyS.Goodman — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 14:22:52 +0000

Reblogged this on Rakes Rogues and Romance and commented: The emotional back story of why our characters are the way they are is the most important part of a romance novel, aside from the great grand love they find. The typeof behavior as discussed below (Avoidant Insecure) is a favorite one in Romance tropes. We all know him; the rake who was neglected as a young child, perhaps mistreated. He grew up never needing anyone, until that one woman comes into his life and he just can't push her out of his mind. Perhaps she has shown him an emotion he's never been made aware of. She makes him feel needed, wanted. All four of my main male characters have issues regarding love and the pain it brings. (Of course they do, otherwise what would I write about!?) But the character who is emotionally distant is the hardest to write about. For me it's because I get emotional writing him. I feel the pain he's gone through. You should only see some of the scenes I've deleted because they were simply too much. That's not to say my females character's get off easily. They have to deal with physical abuse and mental anguish. In my second WIP, my heroine is dealing with an eating disorder as well as a desire to control her life, rather than let her father marry her off to one of his cronies. Our characters take on a life of their own and we can project as much or as little into their psyche as we want. But I feel that in order for a reader to care about our characters and therefore our book, they must learn form mistakes and grow along the way. They need to be tortured just a little to show them that what is worth it in life is worth fighting for. And also that giving your heart to someone doesn't mean you are losing a part of yourself. You are gaining something far more precious and worthwhile. What do you think about this type of character? Do you like reading and or writing about these types of characters?

By: Why We (and Our Characters) Fall in Love: Part Three | Writers In The Storm Blog

Mon, 29 Apr 2013 11:01:52 +0000

[...] of human interaction–showed how easy it can be to fall in love. The second focused on the Avoidant Attachment style. Today she’s back with more characteristics and another style, and we’ll see why our [...]

By: Yvette Carol

Yvette Carol — Wed, 24 Apr 2013 20:57:34 +0000

In reply to writersinthestorm. Unlocked insights, would be an understatement. Wow, Fae, thanks a hundred times over. I've been walking around the last day and a half like one with the blinkers taken off. Thanks for the heads-up re the 3rd installment. I'll keep my eye on the Inbox.

By: writersinthestorm

writersinthestorm — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 23:40:13 +0000

In reply to Yvette Carol.

Glad you pulled me out of the trash, Yvette!
Even though we really know our own attachment style, it's not always easy to put it under the scrutiny required for our characters. But I knew I had to share this information, and I'm glad it unlocked some insights for you.
Just so you don't miss it, next Monday, April 29th, is the third in the series--the Ambivalent/Anxious Attachment Style.
Thanks for reading.
-Fae

By: Yvette Carol

Yvette Carol — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 21:31:13 +0000

Fae, my gosh, do you know how close I came to missing this vital second post? I just found it in my deleted file, at the very end of the file too! I'm not sure how that happened. Eeks. So close. And there I was, waiting with bated breath for it to come in. As expected, yes, I am most definitely the Avoidant/insecure attachment style. Wow, no wonder I've never been able to connect with my partners and am happier without one. Whew. This is stunning insight into myself, others, and of course, it gives me so much fodder for my characters. Do you know, I've never written a character with my own attachment style? I wonder why not? You'd think it would be natural, and yet they all have the same secure style you wrote about first. Wishful thinking?

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