Comments on: The 5 Fears That Spook Most Writers https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/ A Blog On Writing Sun, 22 Dec 2024 03:57:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.1 By: Jenny Hansen https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-147232 Fri, 04 Dec 2020 05:45:51 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-147232 In reply to Debbie Vilardi.

I agree with you 100%, Debbie. And I LOVE your lofty writing goals. It's the big dreamers that change lives. Go, you!!

]]> By: Debbie Vilardi https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-147231 Thu, 03 Dec 2020 21:39:20 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-147231 Fear of success is a subset of fear of change. Change is terrifying and normal. Stagnation is far scarier if you think about it. Would you rather a rolling river or a fetid swamp in your brain? But there's another fear residing with it. The fear of loss of control. If my book does well, the changes aren't in my control. They just happen. That is scary.

But I've been doing this long enough to know we also can't control whether or not we get published. We can submit over and over, but the last step isn't up to us. This is frustrating (and why so many self-publish). So I keep submitting, because you haven't failed until you've given up, and hoping that when I do find success it doesn't spiral too quickly for me to adjust to the change.

For the record, I freelance and have over 15 books in that way. I've also had poems and personal essays and a short story picked up, so so far it has been slow enough. The dream is a Newbery or Caldecott for my illustrator. I believe that if one is going to dream, one might as well dream big.

]]> By: Karen DeBonis https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146822 Fri, 23 Oct 2020 12:34:42 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146822 In reply to Jenny Hansen.

XXOO

]]> By: Jenny Hansen https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146818 Thu, 22 Oct 2020 18:02:47 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146818 In reply to Karen DeBonis.

LOL, thanks. With the month you're having, you deserve to have someone make your day!

]]> By: Karen DeBonis https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146814 Thu, 22 Oct 2020 00:26:50 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146814 In reply to Jenny Hansen.

#1. I am buying those titanium panties, and even if they only fit on my head, I will wear them proudly!! (That TRULY made my day, Jenny!)

#2. My fear is that my quiet, conservative, never-married brother-in-law will read my memoir, then every time I see him, I'll realize he knows THAT about me.

#3. My weird habit - I honestly don't have one. Yet. But as soon as I get my titanium panties...

Thanks for creating this fun, supportive, smart community, Jenny! And I love this: "Fear and gratitude live in the same part of the brain. Therefore, if you are feeling one, you can't feel the other." That's a keeper.

]]> By: dholcomb1 https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146813 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 22:26:28 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146813 In reply to Jenny Hansen.

That is so telling, Jenny.

]]> By: Jenny Hansen https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146800 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 01:17:23 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146800 In reply to Sarah.

Fear of success is totally a thing!! I have that thing. "What if I achieve my heart's desire and I don't have time to devote to it??" <-- Totally. A. Thing.

]]> By: Jenny Hansen https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146799 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 01:16:24 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146799 In reply to dholcomb1.

Fear IS so paralyzing. I heard a speaker once say that "Fear and gratitude live in the same part of the brain." Therefore, if you are feeling one, you can't feel the other. I've tried to lean into that.

]]> By: Sarah https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146798 Wed, 21 Oct 2020 00:40:28 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146798 This is the first time I've seen someone else acknowledge the fear of success -- it's freeing in a lot of ways that someone else can see that it's a thing.

]]> By: dholcomb1 https://writersinthestormblog.com/2020/10/the-5-fears-that-spook-most-writers/#comment-146794 Tue, 20 Oct 2020 03:24:07 +0000 https://writersinthestormblog.com/?p=41154#comment-146794 Fear it will never happen again. Fear I'm an imposter. Fear is paralyzing.

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