Comments on: The Extraordinary Blessings of Asking for Help

By: 🖋 Writing Links Round Up 6/13 – B. Shaun Smith

🖋 Writing Links Round Up 6/13 – B. Shaun Smith — Mon, 13 Jun 2022 19:45:46 +0000

[…] The Extraordinary Blessings of Asking for Help […]

By: Bob Cohn

Bob Cohn — Thu, 05 May 2022 17:28:19 +0000

If you don't ask me for help, I'll probably ask you if I may help. I discovered years ago, that instead of asking for directions, asking someone if they "could help me find" my destination worked much better. Most of us seem to be hard wired for the word help. As toddlers when we were asked to help it meant that we were big boys and girls. (Puberty often puts a wrinkle in that.) One of my great life lessons was that I don't know what I don't know. So I'm almost as willing to ask for help as I am to give it.

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Wed, 27 Apr 2022 04:45:40 +0000

In reply to JL Nich Author SFF. I've noticed that so many of us rate WAY higher on the "giving help" than on the "asking." Your boss sounds like the sort of boss you remember forever.

By: JL Nich Author SFF

JL Nich Author SFF — Wed, 20 Apr 2022 16:54:17 +0000

I'm not sure if this is better or worse but my boss at work likes to make me figure out the hard stuff about Data Analysis. I'll ask a ton of questions but he doesn't give me direct answers. Instead he will ask me what direction I'm focusing on or what actions I'm trying to take or what is my audience. He is not a writer so i usually feel accomplished and proud after I curse a lot then figure it out. But as a writer I want to strangle him. This writer wants to write, not socialize, market, design, or travel. I'd like to be able to say I'd be a good writer without those other things but that's totally false. And I want to know how to do things to make sure they are being done correctly. Yes, help is great. And I have decided being shy (which i am not) or the "independence card" take too long. Really the authors I've asked questions too are more likely to send me a dissertation on things than just say "oh, you should read this book" I'm a 5 on asking for help and about a 7 on giving help.

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Mon, 18 Apr 2022 05:29:02 +0000

In reply to rose2852. It's an excellent (and difficult) skill to develop!

By: rose2852

rose2852 — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 07:24:01 +0000

I've never liked asking for help either, but I'm getting better at it!

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Sun, 17 Apr 2022 06:23:48 +0000

In reply to deleyna. You and I are peas in a pod! I am SO much better at asking for help than I used to be, and actually better at saying no when I am stretched too thin to provide help. That was the huge one. In my old life before kids, I'd just do it. Now I've learned to be helpful, but to conserve my time where possible to give to my family. We're all just works in progress. :-)

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Sat, 16 Apr 2022 06:46:35 +0000

In reply to Lynette M Burrows. Hahahaha! This is good intel to know, Lynette. Hand to God, I've never met anyone MORE stubborn than my wonderful friend Laura. I truly believe that stubbornness has saved her life many times over. But no, she doesn't not count asking for help as one of her life skills. Hence, the parking lot fiasco. God bless those nurses!

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Sat, 16 Apr 2022 06:44:10 +0000

In reply to Barb DeLong. This is so very interesting to me, Barb. Now *I* am thinking, and examining whether I do underground thing, rather than asking for emotional help. It is true that bad news usually only goes to my husband and my bestie -- they HAVE to listen to my crapola. I don't tend to share the depressing stuff very widely though. More because I don't want to have to weather others' reactions when I'm still grappling with my own. But I will totally examine this to see how I feel about it.

By: Jenny Hansen

Jenny Hansen — Sat, 16 Apr 2022 06:40:40 +0000

In reply to dholcomb1. Good for you, Denise! I am working on being that open and evolved. The older I get, the better I'm getting at asking for help because it saves time.