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🖋 Writing Links Round Up 9/30 – B. Shaun Smith — Mon, 30 Sep 2024 19:34:57 +0000

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By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 16:12:09 +0000

In reply to Margie H. Margie, I'm sorry I missed your post! Your granny was right about the fine line between Wonderful & Horrible traits, just like you pointed out with detectives & villains. My marriage-counselor mom always said "whatever first drew you to is likely what's driving you crazy now." :)

By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Tue, 30 Jul 2024 16:04:58 +0000

In reply to Karen. Karen, I'm so sorry I missed your post last week -- especially because you have such a great observation about the variety of types within Enneagrams compared to Myers-Briggs. Either system can spark ideas, but it's cool having a bigger buffet of items to choose from right up front!

By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 15:16:09 +0000

Thanks to everyone who offered thoughts on their (or their characters') possible strengths & weaknesses -- those are always SO much fun to imagine turning into stories! And congratulations to random-dot-org's pick for winning a place in next month's email class on Creating Your Hero's Fatal Flaw: commenter #10, Lynette Burrows...just let me know where to email your GroupsIO invitation next week. :)

By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 15:10:22 +0000

Nancie, it makes perfect sense that you share traits of a Seven and Six...those two are "wings" which (like all the side-by-side numbers) have more aspects in common than other pairs. Some theorists say we show one wing reflects our best self and the other where we need to grow, but for characters -- as well as real-life people -- I think it's even more true that ANY traits can reflect those things!

By: Nancie Rowe Janitz

Nancie Rowe Janitz — Mon, 29 Jul 2024 13:51:59 +0000

I'm definitely a 7. I love to explore and have fun, but I'm usually the one who is late to everything (because I get caught up in my current adventure). Also I can hype people up talking about things I enjoy. BuT I also feel I am a 6 as I tend to defend those that can't do it for themselves and I'm constantly "on-guard" watching for potential danger.

By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 22:52:02 +0000

In reply to Lori DeJong. Lori, it's gonna be so handy that both your characters have some Two in them: it's a wing for both Four and Eight, and that 14-year-old is gonna need all the nurturing she can get! While, of course, they're both used to thinking THEY're the only one who really gets what needs to be done....

By: Laurie Schnebly Campbell

Laurie Schnebly Campbell — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 22:48:58 +0000

In reply to Tim Barrett. Tim, you're TOTALLY normal in having so many elements! We all do; it's just that most people rarely bother to develop each one...and those who DO are often accused of being all-over-the-place when in fact they're more in touch with all their facets. So it's a good thing, and I'm glad it's fun. :)

By: Lori DeJong

Lori DeJong — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 18:00:20 +0000

In my current wip, book 3 of my series releasing next June, my heroine is an enneagram 4 (romantic) with a bit of 1 (perfectionist) thrown in. My hero is pretty much a straight-up 8 (leader). But this workaholic just became guardian of his 14-year-old half-sister, so I see his arc bringing him to becoming a bit of a 2 (nurturer) by the end of the story.

By: Tim Barrett

Tim Barrett — Sat, 27 Jul 2024 16:50:45 +0000

I can find a part of my personality in eight out of the nine types. The only one I feel confident about ruling out is number three. I think I mostly fit number four, but with at least one or more from the remaining six! Self-Effacing, Agreeable, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Distractible, and Scattered, Committed, Engaging, Cerebral: Perceptive, Innovative, Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, Rational, Idealistic Type, and Perfectionistic! What a mess…

I think what this really tells me is I’m all over the place and probably need help!

But it’s definitely fun to explore these types and I can see how it will make developing characters easier and much more fun.