Today we’re going to open a discussion here at WITS about how your characters fight.
Some of my posse from More Cowbell, who also hang out here, have heard the terms "dirty" and "clean" fighting.
Those of you who are new to the concept are likely scratching your heads wondering, "What is all this Dirty/Clean Fighting business, and why do I want to know about it?"
Answer: It's an easy plausible technique to help you send the character conflict in your fiction sky-high. Being deliberate in HOW you have your characters fight helps dialogue magic happen.
Dirty Fighting isn’t some how-to guide on Jujitsu or Street Fighting. Nope, it’s actually a list of twenty-three dysfunctional communication techniques that nearly everyone engages in (including your characters).
I originally found out about these techniques when my pre-marital counselor gave my hubby and I a Dirty Fighting pop quiz (which we failed).
This rockstar counselor proceeded to teach my husband and I the difference between the Dirty Fighting Techniques practiced by most people and the clean-as-a-whistle fighting he wanted us to strive for.
Before we get into Dirty Fighting, let's make sure we define it's opposite: Clean Fighting. Think about this in terms of a real life conflict you had with your spouse, sibling or best friend. Imagining a real-life scenario first will help you extrapolate these skills to your characters.
Here is a clean fight summed up in 4 easy steps:
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? Go try it. It’s really hard to do when you’re mad. Most people who are angry fight dirty. Clean fighting takes some rigorous training.
Now let me ask you something. Do you really think your characters will have had any
of this sort of training? *clutches sides laughing* Not likely.
Unless you’re writing about a psychologist, it’s much more likely that your character will be flawed like the rest of us.
What Makes Great Fiction?
Understanding the difference between clean and dirty fighting will give you a TON of mileage in your own stories. If you need plausible arguments and dialog, Dirty Fighting Techniques will help you achieve this.
The nice part (for you) is that these techniques can be applied with a friend, family member OR a character in your books…it doesn’t really matter. It's about having more tools in your personal toolbox.
Since gratuitous fighting in a story is like gratuitous sex (kinda boring if there’s no real connection or reason for it), the author needs to find a great reason for the fight. How do you do that?
I think the easiest way to pave the road to this amazing fight is to discover what your characters really want. Then dig down for what they really, really want.
DON’T give it to them. Or at least, don’t give it too soon.
Then flake away more layers to uncover what your character really fears. Then what they really, really fear. DO give it to them!
This is where things get interesting. You now have characters who are upset, which shows their true colors. Plus, you’ve now found a problem/conflict that slides both your reader and your character deeper into your story.
Still struggling with this? Try asking your character questions.
Perhaps you’ll use the 9 questions I discussed in my January post on Character
Engagement or new ones that are all your own. Below are some of mine to help you get started.
All of these questions can provide you with cues about where your character is “broken” and give you ideas about fixing the broken part (i.e. Fix = Lesson).
Because this post is already long enough, I'm going to save the actual Dirty Fighting techniques for Wednesday's post. The clean fighting techniques are enough to get you started.
What do you think? Do your characters fight "clean" or "dirty" (and are you being deliberate about it)? What are some ways you could use a good fight to help your
character(s) grow or advance your story?
Jenny fills her nights with humor: writing memoir, women’s fiction, chick lit, short stories (and chasing after her toddler Baby Girl). By day, she provides training and social media marketing for an accounting firm. After 15 years as a corporate software trainer, she’s digging this sit down and write thing. In addition to being a founding member here at WITS, Jenny also hangs out on Twitter at jhansenwrites and at her other blog, More Cowbell.
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