16 Writing Guidelines Every Author Needs in the Age of AI
(Without Losing Your Voice)
by Edie Melson @EdieMelson
If there's one thing I've learned after decades in this industry, it's this:
Being a writer has never been easy.
And today? It seems like the writing world changes almost weekly.
Artificial intelligence continues to evolve. Search engines are changing the way readers discover books and articles. Social media platforms constantly reinvent themselves. Publishing options expand while reader expectations shift. It's enough to make even experienced writers wonder if they can keep up.
The good news is that—while the tools change—the foundations of good writing don't.
Over the years, I've collected a handful of guidelines that continue to keep me grounded regardless of what the publishing world throws my way. They're not rules, and they're certainly not the only way to approach this writing life. These are just principles that have helped me navigate changing trends without losing sight of why I started writing in the first place.
Perhaps they'll encourage you to create your own list.
16 Guidelines That Help Me Stay Grounded as a Writer
1. Your writing isn't as good—or as bad—as you think it is.
When it comes to what we writer, emotion tends to cloud our perspective. Some days we believe we've written something great. Other days…well…we're convinced everything belongs in the trash. Usually, the truth is somewhere in between. I’m still reminding myself to separate my feelings from my work.
2. Never stop learning.
The day we think we've mastered writing is the day we stop growing.
Today's writers don’t only have to learn the craft of writing. We need to know about new publishing models, marketing strategies, and how to use AI responsibly without surrendering our creativity.
Thankfully, curiosity is still one of a writer's greatest strengths. That trail can help us stay current in this ever-changing publishing paradigm.
3. Don't lord your knowledge over others.
Every writer is somewhere different on the journey.
Instead of proving how much we know, it’s important to look for ways to encourage someone who's a few steps behind. That mindset is how healthy writing communities are built.
4. Give back to the writing community.
I've heard writers say they've "outgrown" critique groups or writing organizations, and that hurts my heart. Personally, I don't think we ever outgrow community. But while we need to choose communities that challenge us to grow, we can’t forget our role in encouraging those who are just beginning.
5. Stop marketing primarily to other writers.
Writers are wonderful encouragers—but they usually aren't our primary audience.
It’s important that we spend more time where our readers gather than where writers gather. We must build relationships with the people who actually read our kind of books.
6. Don't expect everyone to write the way you do.
One of the most discouraging statements I heard early in my career was, "Real writers write every day."
That's simply not true.
Some writers have lives—and temperaments—that a daily habit of writing. Others write in focused blocks around work, family, or ministry. Our goal isn't to imitate someone else's routine.
Instead, we must find the schedule that allows us to work to our strengths and produce work we’re proud of.
7. Write consistently.
Consistency matters more than frequency.
Whether we write every morning or every Saturday afternoon, it’s vital that we treat our writing like the calling it is.
8. Welcome critique.
Constructive feedback is one of the fastest ways to improve. Learning not to take critique personally may be one of the hardest lessons writers ever learn—but it's also one of the most valuable.
9. Enjoy the journey.
Publishing is filled with milestones that slip by all too quickly.
Finish the manuscript.
Celebrate.
Sign the contract.
Celebrate.
Launch the book.
Celebrate.
Then keep writing.
The goal of this writing life isn’t a single destination. If we only enjoy the result, we'll spend most of our writing lives waiting to be happy.
10. Write something just for fun.
Not every word has to earn money. Sometimes the healthiest thing we can do is write something no one else will ever read simply because it brings us joy.
11. Don't lose sight of your "why."
My purpose has never been publishing. Writing is part of how God wired me. When I remember why I write, disappointments become easier to navigate and successes become easier to face with gratitude.
12. Try something that stretches you.
Growth usually feels uncomfortable. Whether it's speaking, podcasting, short-form video, newsletters, or experimenting with a new genre, don't let fear of something new keep you from the attempt. That’s the only way we discover a new strength.
13. Practice gratitude.
Comparison in the writing world—and the world in general—is louder than ever. Social media makes it easy to believe everyone else's career is moving faster than yours. Counting the things we are thankful for will silence comparison faster than anything else I’ve ever tried.
14. Don't assume you'll be the exception.
Publishing still requires patience. Yes, amazing things happen and God opens unexpected doors.
But most successful writers got there through years of learning, revising, submitting, and persevering. Overnight success is an exception for a reason—it’s a true rarity in the publishing world. Don’t wait for the exception to appear, make things happen by doing the work.
15. Let technology support your voice—not replace it.
AI is one of the most powerful writing tools we've ever been given. It's excellent for brainstorming, organizing research, overcoming blank-page syndrome, improving workflow, and handling repetitive tasks. But readers don't connect with perfect words. The people who read what we write are looking to connect with someone real—someone authentic.
Yes, use technology to remove obstacles. But never let it replace the experiences, wisdom, humor, faith, and personality only we can bring to the page.
16. Refuse to write from fear.
Fear wears many disguises.
Fear of rejection.
Fear of criticism.
Fear of falling behind.
Fear of AI.
Fear of being overlooked.
And the list goes on. But fear doesn’t produce our best work.
Final Thoughts
The publishing world continues to change—that’s here to stay. New tools will continue to appear. Marketing strategies will continue to evolve. AI will become even more capable. But great writing has always been—and will always be—about connecting with another human being.
We have to remember not to chase every trend. It’s up to us to always be learning—willing to use new tools wisely. And most of all, protect the unique voice we’ve each been given.
What writing guideline has helped you most over the years? I'd love to hear it in the comments.
About Edie
Edie Melson is a woman of faith with ink-stained fingers observing life through the lens of her camera. She’s learned to embrace the ultimate contradiction of being an organized creative. As an author, blogger, and speaker she’s encouraged and challenged audiences across the country and around the world. Her numerous books reflect her passion to help others develop the strength of their God-given gifts and apply them to their lives, often using creativity to empower this connection. The Write Conversation, the blog she developed and manages, reaches thousands and has been on the Writer’s Digest Top 101 Sites for Writers since 2017.
As a social media and blogging expert she’s worked with clients that range from authors and speakers to business and ministry leaders. She also knows the necessity of Soul Care and leads retreats, conferences & workshops around the world on staying connected to God. Her numerous books, including the award-winning Soul Care series reflect her passion to help others develop the strength of their God-given gifts. She’s the director of the Blue Ridge Mountains Christian Writers Conference and board member of the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association. Connect with Edie on her blog, The Write Conversation, Facebook, X (Twitter), Instagram, and other places on social media.
Edie, thanks for the enlightenment and encouragement here. I highlighted this line: "people who read what we write are looking to connect with someone real—someone authentic." I found this true in writing memoir.
My takeaways: Acknowledge the spiritual aspect of writing, creative work is a calling. Address fear--and, express gratitude. 😀
My personal writing guideline? "Own your words! Only you have authority over them. Never forget that 'author' is the foundation of the word "authority."
Years ago I recognized that the world - our culture, our society - is more interested in controlling us - keeping us under its boot - than in letting us be our unique selves with our unique creativity, our unique ideas and dreams. The world tells us incessantly that we should do this, we shouldn't do that, we have to or can't do the other thing, we have to do [XXX] this way, we are wrong if we think [XXX], we'll be labelled, cancelled, or condemned if we do or say [XXX], etc. It is all negative, it is all manipulative, and none of it reflects the slightest scintilla of our personal interests and passions. None of that benefits us or meets our own needs individually.
It is vital that we remember that none of us is obligated to listen to that. When I am confronted by one who would control me and my creativity, my reply is, "Who died and made you God?"
(This is not to say I don't listen to people whose advice or perspective is offered honestly and respectfully, like in the critique group I belong to. Their comments, worthy of attention, almost always show something that will improve my work.)
I am endlessly fascinated by the ideas and concepts that others come up with for their books, their writings - regardless of age, skill with English usage, culture, class, gender, faith, whatever - and the unique ways they present those ideas and concepts. It keeps me humble!
I'm a big fan of community to support my own writing and to allow me to support other people. I remember when one of my critique partners got published, and I was so thrilled because I knew I had a part in her success. It's so important to lift each other up. So much in this industry can make you feel less than. But perseverance matters.
Over all the years I spent learning the craft of writing and writing my story, the biggest and most challenging guideline I had to follow was putting my rear-end in a chair to write!
What writing guideline has helped you most over the years?
I have chosen the hard path: I write. I edit. I publish.
This makes me my own harshest AND most supportive critic.
A lifetime of reading before I started writing informs my choices, but I am the only one who can make those decisions.
I have a wonderful beta reader - but she gets only work I consider finished.
Arrogant? Sort of. But also, my way of taking responsibility: my story, my characters, my universe, my way.
If you like it, I am humbled and delighted - and wish I could write more, faster. Please say so in a review - a few minutes of your time for the years I've put into the physical embodiment of a story that was vouchsafed to me in 2000, and I'm still writing - because it won't go away.
The guideline is 'Writer, trust yourself' with a firm knowledge of of the Dunning-Kruger effect that I need to do the work at every turn, or be one of the idiots in the bottom 10% who think they already know what they need to know to be experts.
Fortunately for me, that 'work' has been hugely fascinating.
If you're curious, go to prideschildren dot com and read the 1500 word Prequel short story - and decide for yourself if you might like to look up the first two volumes of the Pride's Children trilogy on the big A.
You can't edit a blank page was the piece of advise that kept me writing until I finished the first draft. Then I needed to learn to edit a book. (still working on that one) But I totally enjoy the journey, even while pulling my hair out when things aren't working. I keep learning, improving and doing.
Writing is hard. There is a lot you don't know and you don't know what you don't know. So enjoy the ride instead of wallowing in despair. I know that I'm not the best writer out there but there is an audience for my books, even if it is only one person. And the key--never give up.
I use AI sparingly. I don't let it write anything for me. I'll use it for brainstorming and ideas when stuck, and for the essentials of grammar but I don't let it change a thing I've written. AI has it's uses, so get familiar with it. But writing your book isn't one of them.
Loved these bits of wisdom. Thank you!
Thank you, Deb!
Great insight and much appreciated. I'm grateful for your 'ministry' perspective and love this line: Writing is part of how God wired me.
Hi Kae! Thanks for stopping by and taking time to comment!
Such encouraging words. These two connected for me:
Every writer is somewhere different on the journey.
Consistency matters more than frequency.
Thanks, Edie, for always teaching and encouraging.
Judy, those two things are comforting to me too!
Edie, thanks for the enlightenment and encouragement here. I highlighted this line: "people who read what we write are looking to connect with someone real—someone authentic." I found this true in writing memoir.
My takeaways: Acknowledge the spiritual aspect of writing, creative work is a calling. Address fear--and, express gratitude. 😀
Marian, great summing up! I just live this community 💕
My personal writing guideline? "Own your words! Only you have authority over them. Never forget that 'author' is the foundation of the word "authority."
Years ago I recognized that the world - our culture, our society - is more interested in controlling us - keeping us under its boot - than in letting us be our unique selves with our unique creativity, our unique ideas and dreams. The world tells us incessantly that we should do this, we shouldn't do that, we have to or can't do the other thing, we have to do [XXX] this way, we are wrong if we think [XXX], we'll be labelled, cancelled, or condemned if we do or say [XXX], etc. It is all negative, it is all manipulative, and none of it reflects the slightest scintilla of our personal interests and passions. None of that benefits us or meets our own needs individually.
It is vital that we remember that none of us is obligated to listen to that. When I am confronted by one who would control me and my creativity, my reply is, "Who died and made you God?"
(This is not to say I don't listen to people whose advice or perspective is offered honestly and respectfully, like in the critique group I belong to. Their comments, worthy of attention, almost always show something that will improve my work.)
I am endlessly fascinated by the ideas and concepts that others come up with for their books, their writings - regardless of age, skill with English usage, culture, class, gender, faith, whatever - and the unique ways they present those ideas and concepts. It keeps me humble!
Sally, what a great writing guideline! Thanks for sharing!
I'm a big fan of community to support my own writing and to allow me to support other people. I remember when one of my critique partners got published, and I was so thrilled because I knew I had a part in her success. It's so important to lift each other up. So much in this industry can make you feel less than. But perseverance matters.
Debbie, that is the essence of community!
Over all the years I spent learning the craft of writing and writing my story, the biggest and most challenging guideline I had to follow was putting my rear-end in a chair to write!
Celeste, that one’s hard for a lot of us! LOL!
What writing guideline has helped you most over the years?
I have chosen the hard path: I write. I edit. I publish.
This makes me my own harshest AND most supportive critic.
A lifetime of reading before I started writing informs my choices, but I am the only one who can make those decisions.
I have a wonderful beta reader - but she gets only work I consider finished.
Arrogant? Sort of. But also, my way of taking responsibility: my story, my characters, my universe, my way.
If you like it, I am humbled and delighted - and wish I could write more, faster. Please say so in a review - a few minutes of your time for the years I've put into the physical embodiment of a story that was vouchsafed to me in 2000, and I'm still writing - because it won't go away.
The guideline is 'Writer, trust yourself' with a firm knowledge of of the Dunning-Kruger effect that I need to do the work at every turn, or be one of the idiots in the bottom 10% who think they already know what they need to know to be experts.
Fortunately for me, that 'work' has been hugely fascinating.
If you're curious, go to prideschildren dot com and read the 1500 word Prequel short story - and decide for yourself if you might like to look up the first two volumes of the Pride's Children trilogy on the big A.
Bravo, Alicia!!!
I love all of this, but don't write from fear is my favorite.
Lisa, it’s also one of the hardest sometimes!
A great post,and some great comments, too. We are a community. Thank you all.
Julia, this is a wonderful community and I’m humbled to get a chance to contribute. I’ve been a loyal reader and fan of WITS for many years!
Just keep writing!
Amen to THAT!!!
You can't edit a blank page was the piece of advise that kept me writing until I finished the first draft. Then I needed to learn to edit a book. (still working on that one) But I totally enjoy the journey, even while pulling my hair out when things aren't working. I keep learning, improving and doing.
Writing is hard. There is a lot you don't know and you don't know what you don't know. So enjoy the ride instead of wallowing in despair. I know that I'm not the best writer out there but there is an audience for my books, even if it is only one person. And the key--never give up.
I use AI sparingly. I don't let it write anything for me. I'll use it for brainstorming and ideas when stuck, and for the essentials of grammar but I don't let it change a thing I've written. AI has it's uses, so get familiar with it. But writing your book isn't one of them.