by Rebecca Forster
When I started writing, my definition of a fan was anyone who loved my books and me for writing them. I wanted a thousand-million-zillion fans. Over the course of 40 years, as both a traditional and independent author, I managed to collect a few.
The Oxford dictionary tells us that fan is short for fanatic, a word introduced into English around 1550. The word is defined as “marked by excessive enthusiasm and often intense, uncritical devotion”.
The Good Fans...
My first fan was a woman who wrote me a lovely note on beautiful stationery. We corresponded and finally met at the airport for lunch when she passed through town. Her husband, wary because, as he pointed out, I could be an ‘800-pound gorilla”, came to protect his wife from me, a rather short, newly minted author. Later, my first-fan’s husband sent me a tiny gorilla that still lives on a lampshade in my home. We still laugh about it.
Another letter, written in a shaky hand, was signed “Mavis”. I believed I was writing to an old woman. Imagining her to be frail and lonely, I sent her free books which I could ill-afford in those days. I was actually writing to an older gentleman with bad handwriting named ‘Marvin’. He was a stock broker to the ultra-rich. We remained friends and fans of one another until he passed away.
There are so many more stories of fabulous people I have met because of my books. And then there are the unbelievable and frightening ones.
And the Not-So-Good…
One day, I opened a fan letter to find three pages of praise for my work written in a tight hand. I was humbled by the detailed notations. Then I got to this: When I get out of this hell hole maybe we can have coffee. I looked at the envelope and saw that the return address was a notorious California prison, and the writing was typical of inmates for whom paper is a luxury.
I did not write back.
And the Truly Ugly Fans…
Once we entered the digital age, interaction with readers grew by leaps and bounds. Readers wrote often, some with praise and some because they found typos. I was energized by the give-and-take until two more crossed the line.
My first stalking began with an avalanche of phone calls, my number gleaned from a writing group’s roster. The woman showed up at every book signing, taking pictures of me with a telephoto lens. One morning I found an envelope on my doorstep, the pictures inside. Every new encounter felt like an escalating threat.
Another, a man, believed I would leave my husband for him. I dreaded my email and worried that he might travel to find me.
A third—along with her family— bombarded me with emails, begging me to be the woman’s friend. If I refused, then she would refuse a life-saving operation. Her life was in my hands and I didn’t even know the woman.
The stories of these encounters are long and better told over a glass of wine, but the point is that public caution should be part of your writing life.
6 Tips to Prevent “The Ugly”
Here are a few tips to keep you safe from the fanatics and open to your fans.
1. P.O. Boxes
Get one. It is tax-deductible. Even though we are in the digital world, fans sometimes want to send cards and gifts. The return address on thank-you notes should be the PO Box number.
2. A digital address
Funnel your website and social media e-mail communication through a dedicated generic email.
3. Language
In any communication, be aware of overly effusive language about your work, hyper-focus on you personally, and/or questions about your private life. These are red flags.
4. Phone calls
Use extreme caution. An innocent phone call ‘just to say hello’ from my first stalker became a nightmare. Politely say,“ I’m not much for the phone, but I would love an email.”
5. In-person meetings
Only on your terms, in daylight, at a busy venue, after you have vetted the fan. Email or text your location, time of meeting, and name of person you’re with to a trusted source.
6. Vet a fan’s social media
Posts about family, friends, hobbies get a thumbs up. Long posts about depression, health, and traumatic events are a red flag.
Final Thought
Our work as authors is solitary but never really lonely. Our bursts of energy and inspiration are what we live for. Even when they desert us, we revel in the challenge of problem solving.
When a person contacts us to say they appreciate the story we’ve told, the seamless way we tell it, the way we brought our characters to life, our hard work is joyously validated. It is an unfortunate fact of any creative profession that there will be outliers, people who read more into our work than we intend and want more of ourselves than we are willing to give.
So our final job is to control our personal narrative. Do that and there will always be happy endings.
What are your experiences interacting with your fans and readers? Do you have any tips to add (or your own crazy stories to tell)? Please do share them down in the comments!
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About Rebecca

Rebecca Forster started writing on a crazy dare and found her passion. Now a USA Today and Amazon best selling author, Forster is known for her legal thrillers and police procedurals. Over three million readers have enjoyed her Josie Bates thrillers in the Witness Series alone. With over 40 books to her name, Rebecca had a long career in traditional publishing before becoming an indie author. Her fast-paced tales of law and justice are known for deep characterization and never-see-it-coming endings.
In an effort to make her work as realistic as possible, Rebecca has graduated from the DEA and ATF Citizens academies, landed by tail hook and spent two days on the nuclear submarine U.S.S Nimitz, engaged in police ride-alongs, and continues to court watch whenever possible.
Rebecca has taught at the acclaimed UCLA Writers Program and various colleges and universities. She is a sought-after speaker at bar and judges' associations as well as philanthropic groups and writing conferences. Rebecca is also a repeat speaker at the LA Times Festival of Books.

Rebecca has just released The 9th Witness, the final book in her acclaimed Witness Series, Josie Bates Thrillers. Find all her books at any online bookstore or here: https://www.rebeccaforster.com/.
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