by Jenny Hansen
Most of us live in a world that’s always connected. Our screens light up, our feeds refresh, our attention splinters. We have online friends all over the world. And yet. . .current research shows that most people feel lonelier than ever. Like significantly more lonely, especially for the younger crowd.
While the social isolation of the pandemic didn't help, the percentage of people reporting that they are "extremely lonely" hasn't significantly decreased in the time since. The reason for this surprised me.
One of the significant drivers of loneliness. . .
Technology. Research is finding solid evidence that loneliness is correlated to technology. The article I linked to above reports that in January 2025:
- Digital device addiction is at an all-time high. 56% of respondents consider themselves addicted to their digital devices.
- Fifty-seven percent of U.S. adults surveyed agree that technological advancements have contributed to increased feelings of loneliness. Whereas just 10% disagree (the remaining 33% are neutral).
- Devices are a form of escapism for many Americans. 52% of respondents say they’re at least somewhat dependent on technology as a form of escapism from everyday life.
So why do stories matter?
We're writers. We absolutely believe stories are essential. But let's zoom out from us to the people who don't have fiction in their daily lives. What could stories be doing for them?
In the cacophony of today's world, stories are stillness. They slow us down enough to listen. To ourselves, to others, to what it means to be human.
Stories remind us who we are.
They connect us, calm us, and give us language for chaos. Especially for avid readers, stories aren't (just) decoration for the soul, they’re an important structure that keeps that soul standing strong.
As writers, that makes our work profoundly important.
Let me tell you a story about a very uncomfortable car ride.
Backstory: From my earliest memory, I've always been obsessed with books. And I hang out with a lot of other writers, so I didn't really understand that there was anything unusual about my reading habits.
Fast-forward to 2012, and I'm in a car going to a holiday lunch with three of my favorite ladies from work: an accountant, the HR director, and one of the admins. My HR friend brought up a great book that she'd read, and we started talking about it. The accountant chimed in that she'd read four times as many books that year as she did the year before.
I was so excited for her, and super-excited for me, thinking I'd met an insane book-lover like myself. My daughter was a toddler, so my own reading had been cut in half. I expressed that lack and how much it bummed me out. And that's when things went downhill.
The Accountant: "How many books did you read this year, Jen?"
Me: "Probably between a hundred and a hundred and fifty. I wouldn't trade my baby girl, but I miss my old 'Bed Days.' I'd bring two or three books and a bunch of snacks to bed and read all day long. Those were the best! How many books did you read this year?"
And there was dead silence in the car. Weird silence. The kind of silence that tells you that crazy just landed and everyone's trying to decide what to do with it.
Finally, the accountant said, "Four. I read four books this year. And I was super proud of that five minutes ago!"
It was the first time I'd ever been mortified about reading. Mostly I was mortified about embarrassing her. But under it all, I was so sad for her. She'd read one book the year before. ONE. I'd have had a mental breakdown.
How does anyone handle life-ing without great stories?
I didn't really understand how much stories help humans cope until I read Lisa Cron's Wired for Story. I highly recommend it for anyone, but especially for writers. You can read her Writers in the Storm posts here.
3 Reasons Why Readers NEED Stories
Most writers don’t just read for plot. We read to feel something true. We read to travel to different worlds and meet new friends. We read to light up our brains and feel more alive. In doing so, many of us quietly repair pieces inside ourselves.
But what about readers? What are they gaining from reading fiction?
1. Stories Build Empathy
Reading fiction strengthens our ability to understand others’ emotions and perspectives. As stated above, this goes for readers and writers.
Research shows that when we follow a character’s inner life, our brain lights up in the same regions used for real-world empathy. In a separate 2022 study, researchers found that fiction readers consistently perform better on emotional recognition and perspective-taking tasks.
In other words, when a reader enters a great story, they practice being another person. That rehearsal of empathy is a muscle that gets tuned up with reading fiction.

2. Stories Help Us Process Emotion
Stories give readers a safe place to experience big emotions. Feelings like grief, rage, fear, and love can all be felt without risk. When we project our own worries or hopes onto fictional characters, we can confront feelings we might avoid in real life. Stories provide a mental rehearsal for courage and healing.
That's no coincidence. Humans have always learned through story.
3. Stories Offer Calm
Clinical research on bibliotherapy (aka that cool word meaning "reading as therapy") shows that stories reduce anxiety and depressive symptoms and foster emotional resilience. Stories remind us that even pain has an arc and that every ending carries the seed of meaning. And it explains why so many readers love the "happily ever after" of romance.
3 Reasons Why Writers Need Stories Too
If readers heal through stories, writers create the medicine. And the cool thing about writing is that same medicine cures us too.
1. Writing Restores Meaning
Writers make chaos make sense.
When life feels scattered, writing allows us to create something that makes sense out of an idea or event that made no sense to us. In his book, Opening Up, psychologist James Pennebaker shares his research showing that "even short bursts of expressive writing can reduce stress, strengthen immune function, and boost mental well-being."
When we shape emotion into words, we stop being victims of our stories and become authors of them.
2. Writing Reconnects Us
Writing connects our inner world with the outer one. Each word you write becomes part of a larger conversation about what it means to be alive. Somewhere, someday, someone will read it and think their generation's equivalent of, "OMG, me too."
That moment of recognition is like building a bridge over a fragmented world. Bridges matter, and so does your story.
3. Writing Creates Flow
When we lose ourselves in creation (what psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi called flow) our brain chemistry shifts. Dopamine rises. Our cortisol level drops. Our inner critic quiets. Flow is the mind’s most natural meditation.
Writing is a vital act of service.

Writers map the emotional terrains others are often afraid to cross. We go first. We name what hurts and what heals. When readers see themselves reflected in our words, they rediscover their own capacity to endure. And they maintain their belief in hope.
Every short story, blog post, or scene that helps someone breathe easier or feel less alone exemplifies humanity being healed in real time.
I hope you put some version of this on your writing wall:
- Creativity isn’t self-indulgence.
It’s self-preservation. - When the world feels fragmented,
stories put us back together. - When life feels meaningless,
stories help reframe it. - When we can’t speak what we feel,
our stories can whisper it for us.
I truly believe stories can save humanity one word at a time.
Final Thoughts
If you ever doubt the worth of what you’re doing, remember just a few things.
Every story you finish makes the world a little less lonely. And every time you let a character reveal something true, you remind someone else that being human is still a story worth living.
Keep going. Your words matter. They always have.
Now it's your turn. What does reading and/or writing do for you? (They might be different things!) Have you noticed any emotional difference between the people in your life who read fiction and those who don't? Does it change your own emotional set when you don't take time to read?
About Jenny

By day, Jenny Hansen provides brand storytelling, LinkedIn coaching, and copywriting for accountants and financial services firms. By night, she writes humor, memoir, women’s fiction, and short stories. After 20+ years as a corporate trainer, she’s delighted to sit down while she works.
Find Jenny here at Writers In the Storm, or online on Facebook or Instagram.
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Source List:
I read widely for this article, with a lot of journals and research that I'll be happy to share if you like to geek out on things like I do. But an article someone sent me from the Free Press on Substack about an author named David Foster Wallace is what started me down the rabbit hole. In the mid 1990s, he predicted that technology addiction would destroy us. He predicted all that screen time would make people far less connected and far more depressed. And just think, he made this prediction before social media!









